Neither Lobert, nor Ledfold and no Thpenther and TrathyWhat I try to share with you is some thing all of you will meet once.
A book, or an idea to follow how to manage with your child (applied scinetist wants a recipie for everything).
My father told proudly, he found Dr Spock, just they ran out of it in the shop: Thanks god I told him. I found another one - basically people recommended it. The most surprising was that there was nothing surprising in it: it suggests completely natural behaviour. The second most surprising was that it works.
So that was, how I found this book, but what I wanted to write about is the idea how to listen carefully to another being what it wants to tell. AND (!!!) than accept and understand it - that's the metaphore with the horse-whisperer, which film I still haven't seen).
I associate on friends. Those talks with friends. Some people have such mothers.
I always wanted to be a whisperer. Once I was, but I forgot that sweet 16.
Now I'm learning again :)
Do you have?
(The book is Tracy Hogg's Secrets of the baby whisperer)
For formal ELTE students: Note the link of the photo.
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There are very few people whom I really listen to. (Around none...) Though, I give some credit to everybody's opinion, use it maybe as a minor component, a spice, a modificating agent or whatever to form "my own" opinion, which is, at the end, a merged version of several opinions.
And: I feel that I don't always give the most credit to those whom I am emotionally close. Those are different roles, being your advisor and being your friend (or mother).
Everybody can be interesting and everybody can give good advice, I strongly believe. (Hard thing is to decide when you got that and when you got the other 99%...)
Oh, I forgot!
Don't ever watch the Horse Whisperer!
I read the book and later I saw the movie. They managed to dilute out everything important from it. I'll send you the book: it is actually one of my greatest reading experiences of the recent times!
I think it's a missunderstanding here.
What the book I read is about and what I meant here is the capability to listen to people. Quietly listen and help to calm down.
Seems very simple but it is not :)
I am much more unpatient now.
I sent you the book, anyways.
(and I think my comment was truly revealing about my listening skills...)
Thank you! Im already waiting ;)
I still think that listening for you here means accept advices, and I meant just to ... let yourself hear what a baby/horse wants. Like you listen to music or birds. Or watch your cta and learn what it wants when miauing like this or that :)
Now cats are a constant mystery. Luckily, their needs are few and simple. With a few exceptions, of course.
Back to the original topic: I am able to listen carefully only when I'm calm myself. Whenever I am disturbed in any way, I tend to speak a lot and making big efforts to make myself understood. Later I feel ashamed that I didn't let the other speak...I am far from being a whisperer I'm afraid.
... perfectly described me also, I guess :D
OK, so now I see what truly links us together - it just sounds so much like me :-D
I'm great at moral monologues. I should just perform those to myself or to the wall/mirror and THEN speak to the person involved (or listen to him/her)- it would do lot less harm.
I used to do this. My family thought Im phoning. Than that Im stupid.
I gave it up :D
In a movie a women discussed her issues with her hairbrush. The man talked with the shaving brush. Both items gave pretty nasty advices.
Take home message: Don't trust your hairy tools!
And maybe, you are better off if you abuse your friends with discussing half-baked moral monologues.
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